party planning
July 10, 2011 § 2 Comments
Both of my children were preemies and so I find irony in my inability as their mother to properly prepare for their birthdays each year. I inevitably turn the calendar casually only to panic at the stark realization that I am predictably unprepared.
I toss around ideas throughout the year, fantasizing about spectacular themes and imagining finely organized, charmingly coordinated events worthy of magazine quality photographs. Time gets away from me and suddenly I am bouncing between retail spaces frantically searching out the images from my mind’s eye. Typically these items are fabrications of wished for items not yet available in retail stores or indulgences at the cost of sensibility that I cannot in good conscience accommodate.
Last week my daughter received birthday party invitations from friends that caused me to look ahead at the approaching month earlier than normal. I was happily reminded of my daughter’s special day and pledged to prepare in advance.
My daughter’s theme provided our first challenge. She began with one idea and then jumped ship. I was slow to swim to shore. Meeting her on different ground, disorganized and unprepared, I struggled to switch gears. As someone who is chronically indecisive I continually endeavor to teach my children to embrace their decisions without fear of remorse. I gave my daughter a choice between her ideas and then let go.
Our second challenge came when addressing our list of potential guests. I worried we had excluded children and began to add names attempting to be inclusive. My daughter’s list, short and sweet, helped me focus; I reminded myself that this day was hers and allowed myself to set aside my own rational. Again, I let go.
As my daughter’s party took form I realized we had begun to create a party that was genuine; composed of friends and activities that bring her joy. I am inspired. My little girl made decisions without remorse and I have fostered a spirit of celebration for the unique soul that lights up my days with her own definitive sense of style.
Preparations void of my own opinions has created an infectious sense of anticipation. Looking to the calendar, I am ready to turn the page.
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Can’t wait to hear what she’s planned. 🙂
She chose a location that is bright and busy with friends that are familiar and few. I used Evite for the invitations (less waste) and goody bags that have outdoor play items (bubbles, chalk, water balloons). So simple!