open mind, full heart
April 25, 2012 § 4 Comments
My day today began with a meeting, a discussion with a member of my daughter’s educational team who shares a special history with me. Six years ago we met across a large table in a formal meeting where several therapists and educators evaluated my son’s educational needs. This morning we met casually, seated at a much smaller table perched in child size chairs to discuss my daughter’s educational needs. We could have just as easily been old friends meeting for coffee and sharing stories about our children; her smile is a source of encouragement and humor.
Recently I watched a friend begin her own journey into the language of special needs in an elementary school setting. Her child’s challenges differ from my children’s, but my advice is simple: begin with an open mind. Even in moments of uncertainty and frustration, I try to open my mind to explore different perspectives. I listen, ask questions, and research to weigh my decisions. I also remember each of the professionals that work with my children have experience that lends me a wealth of knowledge.
I left the meeting today aware of a mutual respect and sense of friendship. The community of teachers, therapists, and administrators that I have come to know over the years have become an extension of our family. They offer kindness and guidance during difficult moments with the same genuine appreciation they applaud each of my children’s accomplishments. It is a partnership that extends beyond polite exchanges and paperwork. I see the faces of mothers and fathers that understand my role as a parent. I see friends eager to share a resource or a smile. In return I meet them with an open mind, ready to advocate for my children, and grateful for professionals passionate about their work.
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With about 25 years of experience as a special ed person ( I am a speech/language specialist) and now five years as a general ed classroom teacher, I am so happy to hear you express your appreciation for just how much your childrens’ teachers value and love them.
As an educator, I know that the best thing I can do for any child, on any day, is to listen to and appreciate the input of his parents.
Here’s to many more successful parent-teacher collaborations! I wish you all the best with your two!
Thank you, on behalf of the children you inspire and guide daily!
Oh, if only my experiences with special education providers in my son’s school had been as rewarding. We clashed for years over my son’s needs.
I am so grateful for the company of compassionate professionals when addressing my children’s needs. That said, I have become more mindful of my own accidental complacency. There have been moments I allowed confidence in others’ abilities to quiet questions and lull me into a false sense of security. I am more conscious now of my unique strengths and weaknesses as an advocate making my partnership with teachers more balanced.